How To Improve Your Emotional Intelligence at Work

emotional intelligence at workEmotional intelligence, commonly described as common sense, is defined as the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. Our emotional intelligence – the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others – can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success, and a lot of your success and happiness is dependent on how you interact with others—in all jobs.

What can you do to sharpen your emotional intelligence? CareerBliss spoke with a number of psychologists and experts on the topic to pinpoint practical ways to practice strong emotional intelligence at work.

  1. Set an Intention – To control an outcome, you first have to clarify your intention.  “Before you start a project, meeting, or conversation, ask yourself: What is my intention? What do I most want to see happen from this?” says Amita Patel, owner and founder of Aligned Holistics. If you didn’t get what you were looking for, consider rephrasing your question. Looking inwardly can boost your interpersonal skills.
  2. Destress – Stress is kind of like a fog machine for your emotional intelligence. When you’re incredibly stressed out, it’s harder to see interactions clearly. For instance, “Many of us suffer from Email Apnea. Simply put, it means we hold our breath as we’re checking & writing email like a bomb is about to go off. Focus on creating a rhythm of calm & steady breaths,” Patel says. This can help you relax.
  3. Practice Kindness – Simple acts of kindness is always great for building strong relationships in general. Even if it’s as small as flashing a smile and saying “good morning.” Patel suggests: “Hold an elevator door, thank someone sincerely, or listen to someone mindfully without distractions.”

Putting these tactics into practice is a great way to connect your mind and heart for more success and happiness at work.