Open Door Blog » Category: "Self-Esteem"
  • October 31, 2013

build self confidenceAre you confident? Do you feel unimportant or do you beat yourself up when you make even the smallest mistake?

Confidence is what healthy self-esteem looks and feels like.  When self-confidence is increased, doors begin to open to more personal and professional achievements.

We need to build self-confidence in order to succeed in many aspects of our life:

  • Experience more fulfilling relationships
  • Have more passion in your work
  • Enjoy your free time
  • Overcome self-defeating behaviors and addictions
  • Live with better health
  • Achieve more meaning in life

Self-Confidence Source recommends stepping out of your comfort zone to increase your self-confidence. Sure, you may stumble, but you could also feel successful and empowered. One way to achieve more self-confidence is by new doing things. Take a class doing something you always wanted to. Think how wonderful you’ll feel knowing you are doing something for yourself while learning something new. Try striking up a conversation with a stranger next to you in line. You never know how much a kind word could improve his or her day and you’ll feel good knowing you made someone else feel that way.

Maximizing your self-confidence can make a huge difference in your life, leaving you feeling fulfilled.  If you’d like to learn more about this topic, contact Deborah for your free workbook on how to build self-confidence.  It could change your life!

Posted in Life Coaching, Rodas Coaching, Self-Esteem

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • October 17, 2013

mountainsLow self-esteem can have a negative impact on all areas of your life – your relationships, your health, and your job.  It can strip you of your confidence to make even the smallest decisions.

Improving your self-esteem will lead you to a happier and more fulfilling life.  There are things you can do to increase your self-esteem, your confidence, and your well-being.  Start with these steps from Mayo Clinic:

Step 1: Identify troubling conditions or situations
Think about the conditions or situations that seem to deflate your self-esteem.  Common triggers might include:

  • A business presentation
  • A crisis at work or home
  • A challenge with a spouse, loved one, co-worker or other close contact
  • A change in life circumstances, such as a job loss or child leaving home

Step 2: Become aware of thoughts and beliefs
Once you’ve identified troubling conditions or situations, pay attention to your thoughts.  This includes your self-talk (what you tell yourself) and your interpretation of what the situation means.  Your thoughts and beliefs might be positive, negative or neutral.  They might be rational, based on reasons or facts, or irrational, based on false ideas.

Step 3: Challenge negative or inaccurate thinking
Your initial thoughts might not be the only possible way to view a situation, so test the accuracy of your thoughts.  Ask yourself whether your view is consistent with facts and logic or whether other explanations for the situation might be plausible.

Be aware that it’s sometimes tough to recognize inaccuracies in thinking. Most people have automatic, long-standing ways of thinking about their lives and themselves.  These long-held thoughts and beliefs can feel normal and factual, but many are actually just opinions or perceptions.

Step 4: Adjust your thoughts and beliefs
Replace negative or inaccurate thoughts with accurate, constructive thoughts.  Try these strategies:

  • Use hopeful statements.  Treat yourself with kindness and encouragement.  Pessimism can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  • Forgive yourself.  Everyone makes mistakes – and mistakes aren’t permanent reflections on you as a person. They’re isolated moments in time.
  • Focus on the positive.  Think about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone well recently.  Consider the skills you’ve used to cope with challenging situations.
  • Encourage yourself.  Give yourself credit for making positive changes.

Practicing these steps will allow you to begin to recognize the thoughts and beliefs that are contributing to your low self-esteem and you can actively counter them, helping you accept your value as a person.

 

Posted in Life Coaching, Self-Esteem

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.