Open Door Blog » Category: "Life Coaching"
  • February 26, 2015

When you make choices based on your assumptions, you are letting the past control the future. Assumptions hold you back, because when you already “know” that something won’t work, you probably won’t even consider doing it. Even if you do attempt it, you won’t have a lot of energy for, or be engaged in, what you’re doing, since you don’t really believe it can work. When you hold on to your assumptions, you miss out on many possibilities.

Imagine this scenario: A new salesperson has done five sales presentations, and none of the prospective clients have decided to buy her product. If she makes the assumption that she is not good at doing presentations, then it’s unlikely that she’ll put her all into soliciting them. And, even if she does end up doing one, the catabolic energy she brings with her to the presentation may actually repel her potential sales (and without her even realizing it, she has created more proof that her assumption was correct.)

Here are some typical assumptions:

  • If I don’t do it myself, it won’t be done right.
  • My kids are lazy and unproductive.
  • I’m no good at interviewing.
  • No one listens to what I’m saying.

Because assumptions are primarily based on personal experience, they are internalized and emotional, and somewhat difficult to let go of. Delving deep to remove the emotion of the past experience may be necessary before moving
forward.

The main question to ask when challenging an assumption is simply “Just because that happened in the past, why must it happen again?”

Now, when you just “know” that something won’t work based on your past experience, recognize your assumption for what it is, question it, and consciously choose to let it go and to take positive action.

Posted in Career Coaching, Life Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • February 10, 2015

flip calendarDo you dread Sunday evenings? A poll conducted by Monster.com found that a whopping 78% of surveyed adults worldwide experience the “Sunday-night blues” thinking about returning to the office on Monday.

Rather than dwelling on unsettled business or upcoming deadlines, make an effort to enjoy the last bit of your weekend. Below are 5 things that successful people do on Sunday nights:

  • Spend time with family and friends – Successful people know that their weeks will probably be jammed so they make the most of their Sunday nights by spending time with loved ones.
  • Plan something fun – Being focused on the fun will take your mind off of Sunday-night blues.
  • Catch up on reading – Most successful people read every night before bed and Sunday night is a good time to catch up on any reading that has been neglected.
  • Relax – When you know that the week ahead will be busy, a good night’s sleep is essential.
  • Reflect – The end of the weekend can be a good time to take a step back and catalog your feelings. The process will provide you with a valuable emotional release.

What do you do to combat the Sunday-night blues? You can see the full list from Business Insider here.

Posted in Career Coaching, Life Coaching, Rodas Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • December 30, 2014

targetThink back to this time last year and the New Year’s resolutions and goals that you made – did you stick with them? If you’re like most people then probably not. What if this year could be different? It can!

TED tells us that there’s a science to setting goals. Kelly McGonigal, a psychologist at Stanford, shares four research-backed tips to help you craft and carry out successful goals below.

  • Choose a goal that matters
    Our brains are wired to love rewards so we often set simple goals but a meaningful goal requires going deeper. Think about what you want in the coming year and then ask yourself why you want that – three times in a row. This will drive home why that goal matters and that motivation can help you as you work toward that goal.
  • Focus on the process
    When we set goals, it’s easy to focus on the outcome when we’ve reached the goal. Ask yourself, what is the smallest thing I can do today that helps me reach my goal?
  • Frame your goals positively
    How you describe your goals makes a big difference. Focus on what you want to bring to life, not what you want to avoid.
  • Prepare for failure
    Moments of failure are inevitable but we can’t abandon the goal entirely when minor setbacks start piling up. Ask yourself, how am I likely to fail? That mental plan can help you react to things that might trip you up.

Posted in career, Career Coaching, Life Coaching, Skills

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • June 27, 2014

palm treeWelcome to summertime! Live your best life this summer. Whether trying to create a more abundant life or trying to find that new career opportunity, know that you have the power to create everything you want, and that you hold the keys to your success. Use these tips to make this summer your best season of the year:

  • Breathe deeply and appreciate the moment
  • Do one thing everyday that scares you
  • Let go of a need to control
  • Practice acceptance
  • Celebrate daily
  • See the beauty in your family
  • Expand your perspective by expanding your mind
  • Be grateful everyday

Let me help you achieve your goals this summer. Take advantage of my sizzlin’ summer coaching deals to make the last six months of 2014 your best!

 

Posted in Career Coaching, Life Coaching, Rodas Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • April 25, 2014

balanceWork/life balance is something that many people desire but few are able to achieve. There is no perfect, one-size-fits-all balance you should be striving to achieve. A successful work/life balance isn’t about completely separating your work life and your home life, but finding ways to integrate the two. Based on that notion, the founders of CEO Real Talk have offered actionable ways to improve your work/life balance today.

  • Recognize the role of work – Work plays an important part in life – it keeps the lights on, pays them mortgage and funds vacations. Adopting the right mindset allows you to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
  • Learn to breathe – Work can be so demanding that you experience anxiety or become overwhelmed, causing you to literally or figuratively hold your breath. Relax. Release. Breathe. Slowing down and breathing gives you the opportunity to regroup and assess where you are.
  • Be present and consistent – Being present requires you to be attentive at home at work and during free time. The quality of being present makes a significant positive impact on your surroundings. Being consistent requires you to realize that what you do every day matters and where you spend your time and energy has a direct connection to how successful you are in achieving work/life balance.

Posted in Career Coaching, Life Coaching, stress management

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • April 4, 2014

Tulips in a vase, focus on flower in foregroundJust like our homes, sometimes our lives and minds become cluttered. It’s time to clean out the old and let in the new! Pursuing a simple, sustainable, flexible,happier lifestyle means that you have to choose it. And that means choosing to lose some other things. It means getting rid of things that no longer work for you,it means updating the way you do things, it means freeing up some space for new and exciting opportunities and challenges.

Begin to update how you approach each day and free up space for the things that make your truly happy. Below are two steps to help you spring clean your life, clean out the clutter and get organized.

Clean Out the Clutter
Identify any negative habits and truly work to break yourself of them. Sweep out the tendency to gossip, as it wastes time and only ends up hurting others. Wash away procrastination to prevent the buildup of unfinished tasks from constantly preoccupying your mind. Kick anger and jealousy to the curb – if you feel you owe someone an apology, do it. And if you’re waiting for an apology from someone who won’t give one, accept that and move on. Cleaning out the clutter in your life is difficult, for sure. In fact, this first step is definitely the hardest one. But by throwing out the negativity in your life, you make room for more positive opportunities and personal growth.

Get Organized
As with any good spring cleaning plan of attack, after you’ve taken care of the clutter, it’s time to get organized. You need to decide how you’re going to effectively use all that new free space in your life.

  • Prioritize the things that are most important to you. Family, friends, career, fitness, travel, education, romance, a hobby … Whatever they are, list them out in order of importance.
  • Take a look at your day-to-day routine. How closely does your schedule align with your list of priorities? Is there something you aren’t spending as much time on as you’d like? Is there something you’re spending too much time on that isn’t adding to your happiness?
  • Think about how you could more closely align your schedule with your priorities. Ask the people around you to help you with this, for example, ask your boss for that well-deserved time off that you never seem to take, or ask a friend to exercise with you to keep you both motivated.

Spring cleaning your life is a concept many of us ignore, and we keep going about our old routines, hoping something will change with out any action on our part. The key is to get started. So this month do one thing each week to spring clean your life and discover what a fabulous life you can create.

Posted in health, Life Coaching, Rodas Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • March 28, 2014

build self confidenceLife these days can be hectic. With all of our to-do lists and commitments, life can seem pretty overwhelming. For a better and simpler day, try a combination of the following tips from Huffington Post:

  • Slow Down – If you feel constantly rushed then slowing down occasionally is a must. You need to know when to take your foot off the gas a rest a little.
  • Forget the Small Stuff – Vilfredo Pareto’s 80/20 rule states that in any particular pursuit that we undertake approximately 80 percent of the results may come from just 20 percent of our efforts. What this means is that some of us are spinning our wheels most of the time. Try to identify the 20 percent that really matters.
  • Learn the Power of No – Learn to say a polite “No, thank you” to invitations that don’t let you spend time with those you care about or are things that get you closer to your goals.
  • Limit Negativity – Don’t even entertain it. Reduce external negative voices by surrounding yourself with the right people as much as possible.
  • Give Back – The things that give us the best feelings or that we’re most proud of often involve giving or providing a service to someone else. Make giving back a constant goal.

Living simpler often means we live better. You can see even more tips for embracing the power of simpler living here.

Posted in health, Life Coaching, Rodas Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • March 5, 2014

build self confidenceHow strong is your mental health? Huffington Post defines mental health as a psychological concept that encompasses emotional intelligence, grit, resilience, self-control, mental toughness and mindfulness. It’s the reason that some people are able to overcome any obstacle, while others crumble at life’s daily challenges.

The ability to cope with challenging emotions and situations is a significant predictor of our success and happiness. The most capable individuals in this way are able to turn an obstacle into a source of growth and opportunity. So, how do they do this? What tactics do they use to overcome adversity?

Below are 5 essential habits of mentally strong people:

  • They see things objectively – The way we perceive a situation has a huge power to either help us or harm us.
  • They let go of entitlement – An attitude of entitlement can make it more difficult to deal with challenges.
  • They keep a an even keel – Emotional stability and the ability to keep a cool head is an enormous asset when it comes to dealing with challenges.
  • They live in the present moment – Being present allows you to see things as they really are.
  • They know when it’s time to let go – Just as important as perseverance is the ability to recognize that you can only control your actions, not the results of those actions.

You can see the full list of habits and practices here.

Posted in health, Life Coaching, success

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • March 3, 2014

How many times have you decided to try something and everything you do to attain a goal just doesn’t seem to be working, whether it is a new career, relationship or something about money? Why is it that some people can keep going and others just give up?

It’s all about Mindset! That’s right, MINDSET! Do you wake up every day saying, Good God it’s Morning or Good Morning God!!!! The latter seems to produce something in people which keeps them going and moving forward to obtaining their goals.

This idea of Mindset, can also be used in the job search. Jen Weigel, in an article in the Chicago Tribune writes that “98 percent of employers thought it was more likely that a person with the right mindset could develop the right skill set instead of the other way around.” So just think, if you are job searching, and you begin to shift your mindset to being more positive, you may be able to land that next job.

This week, ask yourself, “What mindset do I want to have?” and go out into the world to practice any new mindset that you choose. Pay attention to how life changes with your new mindset.

 

Posted in Career Coaching, Life Coaching, Rodas Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.

  • February 25, 2014

SONY DSCAs humans, we are inherent seekers of truth.  Whether we are trying to comprehend our true life purpose, make a truthful decision, or decipher if someone if telling us the truth, it is natural for us to extract truth from all matter of life. But your truth must be grasped firmly. So long as we are ready to face it, the truth is no further than a few steps down the inner road.

Alexandra Harra, a certified life coach, gives a number of routes we can take on our journey towards truth. Reflect on which of these approaches is best for you:

  • Honor your needs – There are questions you must ask yourself when faced with a choice: what, why, and for whom? Most of the time, the answer to each of these should include a “me” or “I.”
  • Listen – The people around you can help you establish truth, if you are willing to listen. Ask three people whom you trust fully for unfiltered advice. Listen openly and without interruption. A fresh perspective helps detangle truth from frustrating, personal sentiments.
  • Examine history – Truth represents itself throughout history. If you acted in a way that hurt you in the past, acting in a similar way will hurt you in the future. Learn from your own history and base your truth on the lessons you’ve learned.

There are a number of routes you can take on your journey towards truth. You can see all 10 approaches here.

Posted in health, Life Coaching

Written by Deborah O'Donnell

Deborah O'Donnell is the President and Owner of Rodas Coaching, LLC, a Career and Life Coaching firm located in downtown Chicago. She works one-on-one with individuals, executives, and entrepreneurs, helping them gain clarity and align their passions and strengths to open doors to live inspired and balanced lives. Deborah provides career management consulting, which provides resume review, career coaching, and interview skill development.