When you make choices based on your assumptions, you are letting the past control the future. Assumptions hold you back, because when you already “know” that something won’t work, you probably won’t even consider doing it. Even if you do attempt it, you won’t have a lot of energy for, or be engaged in, what you’re doing, since you don’t really believe it can work. When you hold on to your assumptions, you miss out on many possibilities.
Imagine this scenario: A new salesperson has done five sales presentations, and none of the prospective clients have decided to buy her product. If she makes the assumption that she is not good at doing presentations, then it’s unlikely that she’ll put her all into soliciting them. And, even if she does end up doing one, the catabolic energy she brings with her to the presentation may actually repel her potential sales (and without her even realizing it, she has created more proof that her assumption was correct.)
Here are some typical assumptions:
Because assumptions are primarily based on personal experience, they are internalized and emotional, and somewhat difficult to let go of. Delving deep to remove the emotion of the past experience may be necessary before moving
The main question to ask when challenging an assumption is simply “Just because that happened in the past, why must it happen again?”
Now, when you just “know” that something won’t work based on your past experience, recognize your assumption for what it is, question it, and consciously choose to let it go and to take positive action.
Do you dread Sunday evenings? A poll conducted by Monster.com found that a whopping 78% of surveyed adults worldwide experience the “Sunday-night blues” thinking about returning to the office on Monday.
Rather than dwelling on unsettled business or upcoming deadlines, make an effort to enjoy the last bit of your weekend. Below are 5 things that successful people do on Sunday nights:
What do you do to combat the Sunday-night blues? You can see the full list from Business Insider here.
Think back to this time last year and the New Year’s resolutions and goals that you made – did you stick with them? If you’re like most people then probably not. What if this year could be different? It can!
TED tells us that there’s a science to setting goals. Kelly McGonigal, a psychologist at Stanford, shares four research-backed tips to help you craft and carry out successful goals below.
Welcome to summertime! Live your best life this summer. Whether trying to create a more abundant life or trying to find that new career opportunity, know that you have the power to create everything you want, and that you hold the keys to your success. Use these tips to make this summer your best season of the year:
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Work/life balance is something that many people desire but few are able to achieve. There is no perfect, one-size-fits-all balance you should be striving to achieve. A successful work/life balance isn’t about completely separating your work life and your home life, but finding ways to integrate the two. Based on that notion, the founders of CEO Real Talk have offered actionable ways to improve your work/life balance today.
Just like our homes, sometimes our lives and minds become cluttered. It’s time to clean out the old and let in the new! Pursuing a simple, sustainable, flexible,happier lifestyle means that you have to choose it. And that means choosing to lose some other things. It means getting rid of things that no longer work for you,it means updating the way you do things, it means freeing up some space for new and exciting opportunities and challenges.
Begin to update how you approach each day and free up space for the things that make your truly happy. Below are two steps to help you spring clean your life, clean out the clutter and get organized.
Clean Out the Clutter
Identify any negative habits and truly work to break yourself of them. Sweep out the tendency to gossip, as it wastes time and only ends up hurting others. Wash away procrastination to prevent the buildup of unfinished tasks from constantly preoccupying your mind. Kick anger and jealousy to the curb – if you feel you owe someone an apology, do it. And if you’re waiting for an apology from someone who won’t give one, accept that and move on. Cleaning out the clutter in your life is difficult, for sure. In fact, this first step is definitely the hardest one. But by throwing out the negativity in your life, you make room for more positive opportunities and personal growth.
As with any good spring cleaning plan of attack, after you’ve taken care of the clutter, it’s time to get organized. You need to decide how you’re going to effectively use all that new free space in your life.
Spring cleaning your life is a concept many of us ignore, and we keep going about our old routines, hoping something will change with out any action on our part. The key is to get started. So this month do one thing each week to spring clean your life and discover what a fabulous life you can create.
Life these days can be hectic. With all of our to-do lists and commitments, life can seem pretty overwhelming. For a better and simpler day, try a combination of the following tips from Huffington Post:
Living simpler often means we live better. You can see even more tips for embracing the power of simpler living here.
How strong is your mental health? Huffington Post defines mental health as a psychological concept that encompasses emotional intelligence, grit, resilience, self-control, mental toughness and mindfulness. It’s the reason that some people are able to overcome any obstacle, while others crumble at life’s daily challenges.
The ability to cope with challenging emotions and situations is a significant predictor of our success and happiness. The most capable individuals in this way are able to turn an obstacle into a source of growth and opportunity. So, how do they do this? What tactics do they use to overcome adversity?
Below are 5 essential habits of mentally strong people:
You can see the full list of habits and practices here.
How many times have you decided to try something and everything you do to attain a goal just doesn’t seem to be working, whether it is a new career, relationship or something about money? Why is it that some people can keep going and others just give up?
It’s all about Mindset! That’s right, MINDSET! Do you wake up every day saying, Good God it’s Morning or Good Morning God!!!! The latter seems to produce something in people which keeps them going and moving forward to obtaining their goals.
This idea of Mindset, can also be used in the job search. Jen Weigel, in an article in the Chicago Tribune writes that “98 percent of employers thought it was more likely that a person with the right mindset could develop the right skill set instead of the other way around.” So just think, if you are job searching, and you begin to shift your mindset to being more positive, you may be able to land that next job.
This week, ask yourself, “What mindset do I want to have?” and go out into the world to practice any new mindset that you choose. Pay attention to how life changes with your new mindset.
As humans, we are inherent seekers of truth. Whether we are trying to comprehend our true life purpose, make a truthful decision, or decipher if someone if telling us the truth, it is natural for us to extract truth from all matter of life. But your truth must be grasped firmly. So long as we are ready to face it, the truth is no further than a few steps down the inner road.
Alexandra Harra, a certified life coach, gives a number of routes we can take on our journey towards truth. Reflect on which of these approaches is best for you:
There are a number of routes you can take on your journey towards truth. You can see all 10 approaches here.