When you make choices based on your assumptions, you are letting the past control the future. Assumptions hold you back, because when you already “know” that something won’t work, you probably won’t even consider doing it. Even if you do attempt it, you won’t have a lot of energy for, or be engaged in, what you’re doing, since you don’t really believe it can work. When you hold on to your assumptions, you miss out on many possibilities.
Imagine this scenario: A new salesperson has done five sales presentations, and none of the prospective clients have decided to buy her product. If she makes the assumption that she is not good at doing presentations, then it’s unlikely that she’ll put her all into soliciting them. And, even if she does end up doing one, the catabolic energy she brings with her to the presentation may actually repel her potential sales (and without her even realizing it, she has created more proof that her assumption was correct.)
Here are some typical assumptions:
Because assumptions are primarily based on personal experience, they are internalized and emotional, and somewhat difficult to let go of. Delving deep to remove the emotion of the past experience may be necessary before moving
The main question to ask when challenging an assumption is simply “Just because that happened in the past, why must it happen again?”
Now, when you just “know” that something won’t work based on your past experience, recognize your assumption for what it is, question it, and consciously choose to let it go and to take positive action.
Your best work-life balance will vary over time, often on a daily basis. The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The right balance for when you are single, will be different if you marry or have children; when you start a new career, versus when you are nearing retirement.
There is no perfect, one-size fits all balance you should be striving to achieve!
The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives. However, at the core of an effective work-life balance definition are two key everyday concepts that are relevant to each of us: Achievement and Enjoyment.
Focusing on achievement and enjoyment every day in life helps you avoid the “As soon as…” trap – the like-dulling habit of getting around to the joys of life and accomplishment “as soon as…”
Life will deliver the value and balance we desire…when we are achieving and enjoying something every single day…and in all the important areas of our life.
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Do you dread Sunday evenings? A poll conducted by Monster.com found that a whopping 78% of surveyed adults worldwide experience the “Sunday-night blues” thinking about returning to the office on Monday.
Rather than dwelling on unsettled business or upcoming deadlines, make an effort to enjoy the last bit of your weekend. Below are 5 things that successful people do on Sunday nights:
What do you do to combat the Sunday-night blues? You can see the full list from Business Insider here.